Ignore

"I thought how unpleasant it is to be locked out; and I thought how it is worse, perhaps, to be locked in." Virginia Wolfe

I think that being ignored is the cruelest way to make a point......to flaunt control.....to wield power. Not acknowledging a person can create a hurt so deep - it's the harshest thing someone can do to another...especially if that person claims to care.  Many years of my childhood were spent either being ignored or being the focus of her anger.  I still haven't decided which was worse.  Hard as I tried to win with her, I NEVER did.

Since having my own children I have come to understand that she too must be locked in her own sort of hell.  Really, she must have been truly miserable to do the things she did to her own child and been able to function in her daily life.  Was she ignored as a child? Was she abused?  Did the person that was supposed to protect her hurt her in the worst possible way?